Do you realize how special you are?

Self-esteem, self-love, and self-respect are all tools that children need to become successful adults. Looking at Preschoolers you will see that most are very proud of themselves and their accomplishments. As children enter grade school and beyond often this feeling is lost and replaced with self doubt and self loathing. When a child begins to doubt themselves it leaves a hole in their life that can be filled with unhealthy things: bullying, drugs, alcohol, sex, eating disorders, cutting, etc. The list of problems related to a low self-esteem is long and painful.

The following activity is designed to remind students just how special they really are:

Put a large mirror in the bottom of a big box with a lid on it. Have the students line up. Have them look into the box one at a time and promise that they will not share with the other students what they see.  Tell them that they will see "something special" when they look into the box.

Once all the students have looked in the box and returned to their seats, have them write on a piece of paper three things they LOVE about themselves. Allow the student to share what they wrote if they want.

Ask them how thinking about what they love about themselves made them feel? Thinking positive thoughts about oneself is a great tool to help get through difficult times. Tell the students to keep the paper in a safe place and look at it whenever they feel sad or someone has been mean to them.

( adapted from lesson created by Mary Ann Gleason)

Every decision you make has one intented consequece...

Every decision you make has at least one intended consequence and at least two unintended.

Youth do not automatically have the brain development for critical thinking and seeing the bigger picture. It has to be taught. In a world of instant gratification the art of thinking before acting is often lost. The decisions made without thinking things through can be the cause of things to happen that are unattended. The problem arises when people feel that because it was not done on purpose that therefor they forgo any responsibility for the outcome. Just because you didn't mean to do it doesn't mean that you are not responsible.

Work with the kids on the following examples. Have them tell you the intended consequence and at least 2 unintended consequences. Let the kids steer the discussion. The age brackets of your students will often dictate how deep the discussion goes. When students bring up the more difficult subjects in society, such as drugs, rape, pregnancy etc.; I acknowledge them by saying "good point" and leave the subject alone.

Some scenarios to think about:

• A student cheats on a test. The intended consequence is a better grade. What are two unintended consequences?
• A couple of friends are home alone and decide to take out the 4-wheeler into the field even though they are not allowed to take it out when no one is home. Intended consequence: to have fun running the 4-wheeler. What are two unintended consequences?
• Two girls tell their parents that they are spending the night at each other's house. They then walk to a party down the street. Intended consequence: to enjoy a party they wouldn't have been allowed to go to. What are two unintended consequences?
• A group of boys have a sleep over and decide to drink the parents alcohol. Intended consequence: to experiment with alcohol. What are two unintended consequences?
• A teen isn't allowed to date and told her mom that she is hanging with friends at the mall and meets a boy to go to the movies. Intended consequence: to go on a date. What are two unintended consequences?
• A friend tells you a secret, you promise not to tell, though you are worried you decide not to tell. Intended consequence: You keep your promise. What could two unintended consequences be?

Ask the students for examples of things they have done or that they have heard happened where the people should have thought things through more.  (Remind the students that you want NO NAMES and that what is heard in the room, stays in the room.)